Simon Yisrael Feuerman, a psychotherapist in New Jersey, is director of The New Center for Advanced Psychotherapy Studies.
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When Shabbes Is the Longest Day

If I wanted my daughter to learn to love the Sabbath, I had to bend my own rules just a little

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The Lives We Never Lived

Imagining a different, less-observant life confirms that I’ve made the right choices for myself

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Lifting More Than Just Weights

Entering a weightlifting contest challenged everything I was raised to value

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On Purim, Remembering Not to Forget

Memory, continuity, and a grandfather’s curious New York Times ritual

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When Modern Medicine Fails, an Old Folktale Offers Comfort

My father used to bristle at a family legend about putting one’s life in God’s hands. Now he has come around—and so have I.

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Why Jews Were Drawn to the Civil Rights Battle

It was a moral imperative, but it also fueled a different urgency among Jews

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Gelt Complex: A Tale of Two Zaydes

One grandfather gave lavish Hanukkah gifts, the other single dollar bills. The reasons stretch back to the Old Country.

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Discovering the Lust in a Religious Man’s Heart

When I found pornography in my Talmudic mentor’s desk, I felt betrayed. What did it say about him—or about all of us?

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Finding an Unlikely Serenity at Yiddish Vokh

Annual retreat draws a diverse group with a love for the Jewish language

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People Who Secretly Love Feeling Miserable on Tisha B’Av

The holiday gives us permission to mourn for many things, personal and communal, that we avoid discussing the rest of the year

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My Arranged Marriage—to the Torah

On Shavuot, as Jews commemorate our marriage to God at Sinai, I look back on the commitment I made as a young man

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A Congregation Can Be Like a Family—for Better, and for Worse

I pray with angry, damaged, and difficult men. I stay because they’re like my brothers. And because sometimes they change.

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My First Tough Mudder Competition

The grueling physical challenge was everything my DNA says I should avoid

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Remember the Often Invisible Non-Jews Who Help the Jewish World Function

We tend to overlook the gentiles who keep synagogues running. As we begin the Torah anew, let’s acknowledge our debt to them.

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Facing the Naked Truth About My Father’s Declining Health, and What It Means for Me

When I was young, my father cared for me. Now he’s old and needs my help, but can I really provide it?

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Living in a Material World

Rabbis have long tried to persuade us of the benefits of parting with some of our money. Are we listening?

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The Last Kaddish

Mourning for my mother saw me through anger, doubt, and numbness—and brought me closer to her

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Burying a Man of Mystery

By giving a stranger a proper funeral, my community did a mitzvah. What if he wasn’t actually Jewish?

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Softball as Fountain of Youth

Playing the game with men in the afternoon of life, trying to keep it from turning into evening

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My Father and the Talmud

I idolized my dad and resented him. As I’ve untangled our relationship, I adopted his passion: Talmud study

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A Motley Minyan

They’re frustrating, and sometimes broken, but the men in my shul make services divine

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New Republic

I grew up in a world of observance, separate from secular America, but soon realized that the borders are more porous than they seem

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Mourning Glory

When a mother succumbs to cancer in old age, and a father faces his own mortality, a son is reminded of the blessings of a good shiva

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Beggars on Horseback

The needy come to a New Jersey synagogue to claim their due, and the donations that result seem to flow both ways

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A Rabbi’s Christmas

A shopping trip to Borough Park on Dec. 25 reveals a lesson about pious passivity and dignity—and the value of human relations