In the Rough

Mazal tov Vanessa and Trevor!
I’ve been married 17 years and I never once thought of my engagement ring as a proof of purchase. BUT I did live without one for several months because we got engaged spontaneously and I didn’t want to seem “greedy.” I wrote about it here: http://njjewishnews.com/tribe/2011/05/20/present-tense/
Trust me, in an engagement and a marriage, navigating the engagement ring is the easy part! Good luck, and much love!

I don’t know where the engagement ring thing came from, but I’m Russian(-American), and no one in Russia gives engagement rings. I wonder if it’s only an American tradition…

ah the question so many of us pondered. i’ve been married for 5 years, and did not get an engagement ring, but i do wear a plain band in the tradition of jewish wedding rings. people told me “oh you’ll regret this decision” telling me not to be so anti-diamond….but i just didnt like the hype around it and i am really not a wearer of jewelry. my wedding band is the first ring i’ve ever worn….

<3 this

mazl tov! also you were pretty kind with prince william’s hair. ;)

Speaking from the guy point of view, I see it as the first real test for the groom: is he able to let her decide on what to do, and more importantly is he able to decipher what she means, even if it is not what she says.

i.e.:
“I don’t want a ring” (I want a BIG ring)

“We should have a small, intimate wedding” (200 people is small right?)

Ultimately, it is further proof that God invented women because he owned stock in Seagram’s.

aw, mazel tov, vanessa!!!!

this made me laugh and made me happy.