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In the Rough

An illustrator gets affianced and her thoughts zoom from wanting an engagement ring to worrying it symbolizes that she’ll be her man’s property

By Vanessa Davis|December 16, 2011 7:00 AM|Comments:
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Vanessa Davis' most recent book, Make Me a Woman, includes many comic strips first published in Tablet Magazine. Her first collection of diary comics, Spaniel Rage, was published in 2005.
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Alia says:
December 16, 2011
1:38 PM

Mazal tov Vanessa and Trevor!
I’ve been married 17 years and I never once thought of my engagement ring as a proof of purchase. BUT I did live without one for several months because we got engaged spontaneously and I didn’t want to seem “greedy.” I wrote about it here: http://njjewishnews.com/tribe/2011/05/20/present-tense/
Trust me, in an engagement and a marriage, navigating the engagement ring is the easy part! Good luck, and much love!

brezhnev says:
December 16, 2011
1:46 PM

I don’t know where the engagement ring thing came from, but I’m Russian(-American), and no one in Russia gives engagement rings. I wonder if it’s only an American tradition…

Atara says:
December 16, 2011
2:50 PM

ah the question so many of us pondered. i’ve been married for 5 years, and did not get an engagement ring, but i do wear a plain band in the tradition of jewish wedding rings. people told me “oh you’ll regret this decision” telling me not to be so anti-diamond….but i just didnt like the hype around it and i am really not a wearer of jewelry. my wedding band is the first ring i’ve ever worn….

sara kazemi says:
December 16, 2011
10:56 PM

<3 this

Katie says:
December 17, 2011
1:26 AM

mazl tov! also you were pretty kind with prince william’s hair. ;)

Marc says:
December 22, 2011
9:50 AM

Speaking from the guy point of view, I see it as the first real test for the groom: is he able to let her decide on what to do, and more importantly is he able to decipher what she means, even if it is not what she says.

i.e.:
“I don’t want a ring” (I want a BIG ring)

“We should have a small, intimate wedding” (200 people is small right?)

Ultimately, it is further proof that God invented women because he owned stock in Seagram’s.

marjorie says:
December 27, 2011
6:07 PM

aw, mazel tov, vanessa!!!!

this made me laugh and made me happy.

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In the Rough

An illustrator gets affianced and her thoughts zoom from wanting an engagement ring to worrying it symbolizes that she’ll be her man’s property